My friend put her hands on her hips, stomped her foot, and glared at me. “If you don’t like it . . . change it.” she shouted.
If it were only that easy, I thought. Change is hard, whether it’s a change of heart, change of pace, or change of life. The problem is, I’ve spent too much of my life trying to change things over which I had no authority or control. I’ve learned that, in certain situations, it simply is what it is, and no amount of fretting, whining, or complaining will make it any different.
On the other hand, I’ve had to learn to recognize what can be changed – changed by patience, persistence and consistency – changed by hard work, determination, and time – changed most of all by prayer. If you, like me, have a difficult time knowing when the ball is in your court, pay close attention to the Serenity Prayer:
God, give me the serenity to accept what I cannot change,
courage to change the things I can,
and wisdom to know the difference.
When we take ownership of the things in our life that are under our direct control and stop wrestling with things that are not, we begin to walk in a greater measure of peace and a large percentage of our frustrations cease to exist. All of a sudden those mountains we made out of all the molehills in our life, don’t seem so ominous and threatening.
If you can’t move the mountain, climb it, find a way to go around it, tunnel through it, or learn to appreciate it and enjoy the view.
If you’re dealing with a problem, situation or person you know you cannot change, stop beating your head against that proverbial brick wall and give it to God. Cast the whole of your care on Him. Ask Him for His wisdom and the grace to accept it. Then, let it go. If it’s something that can change and God gives you the green light, go for it. Do all you can and let God handle the rest.
You’ll be delighted and amazed at what He’ll do in your life.
Andrea Merrell is a freelance writer and editor with a passion to help others see God’s Word as practical and relevant for ordinary, everyday life. She has written material for ladies’ groups, marriage retreats, skits, websites, and brochures, and is currently working on three novels and countless devotions. Andrea is a staff writer and copy editor for www.ChristianDevotions.us and www.DevoKids.com, and lives in South Carolina with her husband (and best friend), Charlie. Visit her website at www.andreamerrell.com. Read Andrea’s devotions.
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