The Gift of a Good Death – Michele Howe
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He will guide you to the end

For this is God, our God forever and ever; He will be our guide even to death. Psalm 48:14 NKJV

My father-in-law was dying of esophageal cancer. We heard the news at our grandfather’s funeral.

While we grieved the loss of one well-loved man, we were simultaneously projected ahead to the loss of another. It was in one of those moments when our feelings get all mixed up with facts and everything blurs together.

During the final five months of his life, my father-in-law, a man who had struggled with depression his entire adult life, fought the good fight—physically—emotionally—spiritually. He underwent every chemo and radiation process with more courage than I can imagine enduring. There was never a complaint.

I marveled at how well he accepted his terminal diagnosis and the grueling treatment plan that only promised to add a few brief months to his life. For a man so given to long bouts of emotional despair, I feared the worst for him. But I was never more wrong.

Beyond explanation, he seemed to thrive during those precious last weeks and months on earth. I was able to spend considerable time with my father-in-law, driving him back and forth to radiation treatments, to doctor’s appointments, or just to run errands.

Even now, I shake my head in amazement that this man whom I had known for over twenty-five years could (and would) endure certain death with such poise and peace. Rather than us comforting him, he comforted us.

Scripture tells us God Himself will be our guide even to death. He’ll walk us through every moment. There was such grace—the kind only God can supply—during those terrible hours of suffering. Every day he died a bit more, but the memory of these precious moments and conversations can still stop me in my tracks when something reminds me how much I gained personally from our talks.

Somehow his patience with the horrifying painful process, and his courage to face death itself, was remarkable. So much so that I remember with far greater fondness how he died than how he lived. My father-in-law walked with God as his guide and God led him with grace.

When life-ending days face a loved one, reach out to the God who promises to guide us…even into death. Remember, God promised to be with you until your last day on earth. Let this good ending keep you going when you want to give up.

The Gift of a Good Death is an excerpt from Michele’s new book, One Size Fits All, published by Lighthouse Publishing of the Carolinas. It is now available at www.amazon.com.

Michele Howe photoMichele Howe is the author of twelve books for women and has published over 1600 articles, reviews, and curriculum for more than 100 different publications. Her single-parenting titles include, Going It Alone and Still Going It Alone. After six shoulder surgeries, Michele co-authored, Burdens Do a Body Good: Meeting Life’s Challenges with Strength (and Soul), and Prescription for Life. Faith, Friends, and Other Floatation Devices will be published in 2013 by ACTA Publications. To learn more, visit http://michelehowe.wordpress.com or contact Michele at: jhowe@toast.net.

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Numbing Ineffectiveness – Sally Matheny
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Did I Do That?

Their hearts are callous and unfeeling, but I delight in your law. It was good for me to be afflicted so that I might learn your decrees.
Psalm 119:70-71 NIV

The day I walked into the church with the corner of my dress firmly tucked inside my pantyhose was one of my top ten most embarrassing moments.

My two toddlers and I had made a restroom stop before the morning worship. Anyone with toddlers knows this is no easy feat.

After I finally arrived at the sanctuary pew and got the children settled, a sweet, teenage girl quietly slipped in the pew behind me and informed me of my predicament. If I could have crawled under the pew and slithered out, I would have. My only option was to laugh it off and make the necessary adjustments.

Afterwards, my husband asked, “Could you not feel the dress stuck in there?”

I assured him with all the control top undergarments, everything felt stuffed in there. Due to the numbing tightness, I was totally unaware the dress had gone astray.

That incident happened over ten years ago. Not one Sunday has gone by since that I have not triple-checked the location of my hemline. Needless to say—lesson learned.

I rush around in life all too often, never really seeking God’s direction. Sometimes my day is jam-packed with so much stuff that I absent-mindedly agreed to participate in, mandate, and coordinate, that I fail to realize something is amiss.

It’s easy for my heart to become calloused to God’s purpose for my life. Even if all my activities are good ones, I can allow myself to become stretched to a numbing ineffectiveness.

God wants me 100%. He wants to be the first thing on my mind and when I let Him, amazing things come to pass.

When hardships burden you because you rushed ahead and did not seek God’s counsel … slow down.

Choose not the controlling pressures of the world, but rejoice in the freedom Christ offers. Pray, seek God’s wisdom and guidance in all things, including the use of your time, and trust and obey when He says, “Be still.” Any afflictions along the way will soften your heart, making you sensitive again to His voice and will for your life.

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Encouraging others is Sally Matheny’s mission in life, with a special passion for children. She is a contributing writer for the international devotional magazine, Keys for Kids. Her writing can also be found at DevoKids and www.writersadvance.blogspot.com.

Sally takes pleasure in speaking for various women’s organizations and children’s groups. God uses her as a facilitator for Bible studies with women, children, parents, and new believers. For over twenty-five years, she has taught God’s truths to children, from toddlers – high school.

A former public school teacher with a M. Ed., Sally is now in her twelfth year of homeschooling three children. She and her pastor-husband reside in N.C. Sally is a member of SCBWI, ACW and NCHE. www.sallymatheny.weebly.com

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Training Wheels – Sarah Stasik
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Training the Trainable

Guide me in your truth and teach me, for you are God my Savior, and my hope is in you all day long. Psalm 25:5

I removed the training wheels from my son’s bike for the first time. It only took about an hour before he was flying up and down the driveway, but the first forty-five minutes of that hour I spent standing next to the bike, arguing with him. He was adamant that a bike simply would not work with only two wheels. Science and gravity and child-logic were all against it.

The last fifteen minutes were spent climbing—full of doubt—onto the bike. I pushed him around the yard until he was up to speed. A bit later, he made circles around us yelling, “It’s like I have extra legs. Two legs to pedal and two legs I can’t see, holding me up. It’s easy.”

I think about that moment now, years later, and as a mom, how proud I was of his accomplishment. It reminds me of a joy-filled afternoon. But I also think about how the lesson applies to life in general. I worry, fret, and decide things won’t work. Science and reason and adult-logic are against them.

How many times do we pedal furiously through life, sure we are about to topple over? Many people put their feet down every few yards, afraid of falling, and get nowhere. Our fear, our disbelief, and our inability to let go and KNOW we have two legs we can’t see holding us up, keep us from getting to our destination.

Just as the little child must learn the bike will work with only two wheels, we must know there is someone else in charge of our bike ride through life. We may pedal, we may turn the wheel, but our bike is guided by Jesus. If we believe, if we turn our bike over to him, then we too can cry out as we are caught up in the joy of life:

Believe. “It’s EASY!”

Sarah Stasik lives on a crooked mountain in Virginia with her husband and son. Her writing has appeared in publications such as The Kid’s Ark, Penned from the Heart, and Standard Publishing’s Program books. Read Sarah’s devotions.

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Hidden Pockets – Sara Holley
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Be still, and know that I am God. Psalm 46:10

“Teacher,” he said, “I can’t find my pockets.” As the wind picked up at recess, one of my kindergarten students had his coat on inside out. He frantically pulled at the coat in search of his pockets. I calmly removed his coat, flipped it, and slid his arms into the sleeves. Puzzled, he tried again. This time he succeeded in putting his hands in his pockets. A smile stretched across his face and his eyes lit. “There they are.” he said. Contented, he joined his friends to play.

There are many times when I feel like I have lost something. I feel frustrated and fear takes over as I search frantically for comfort. I try everything I can to get it back—coffee with a friend, a hug from my husband, chocolate. But the truth is I haven’t lost it at all. I simply need to be still and recognize His presence. God is near and He calmly sets things right. There is no better feeling than to be found after feeling lost. Only in Him can we find the peace we seek.

When you feel lost, when you can’t find your way—be still and know He is God. He will press His hand against the small of your back and nudge you forward.

Dear Lord, help me to not be frustrated and frantic. Show me how to be still and recognize that you are with me all the time. Thank you for being calm and patient. Amen.

The writings of Sara Holley draw from her past roller coaster ride in life, including childhood as a pastor’s daughter, motherhood, divorce, poverty, multiple jobs, remarriage, and the accompanying feelings of joy, doubt, abandonment, fear, and contentment. She learned that only by loving and serving as Jesus taught, can true peace be found. Currently a kindergarten teacher holding a Masters of Curriculum and Instruction with an emphasis on the young child, Sara fills her time loving on young children through literature and the Lord. She encourages her five grown children and three grandchildren and is devoted to her husband in the mountains above Lyons, Colorado.

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Don’t Make Me Tell You Twice – Lori Hatcher
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I will betroth you to Me forever; Yes, I will betroth you to Me in righteousness and justice, in loving kindness and mercy; I will betroth you to Me in faithfulness, and you shall know the Lord. Hosea 2:19-20

“Don’t make me tell you twice!” my grandmother would say, frowning and shaking her finger for emphasis. We knew when Granny said those words, she meant them. They were her no-nonsense words, and we children knew we’d better listen up and follow with the appropriate action if we knew what was good for us.

I am glad God never says, “Don’t make me tell you twice.” He often repeats Himself in scripture, and He doesn’t seem to mind. In fact, unlike my grandmother, I think He actually LIKES to repeat Himself. Eleven times in the Bible He tells us to “fear not.” Four times in the gospels, Jesus encourages us to “have faith.” Over thirty times in the Psalms, God instructs us to “Praise the Lord.”

While I am not a fan of repetition, I LOVE the promise God repeats to His people Israel in Hosea: “I will betroth you to Me forever; Yes, I will betroth you to Me in righteousness and justice, in loving kindness and mercy; I will betroth you to Me in faithfulness, and you shall know the Lord.”

Betroth is not a word we hear too often anymore. It has connections to a bygone era. To most it is an outdated concept. Its synonyms are to engage, to promise, to pledge.

I love how God repeats his promises to betroth Himself to Israel and, ultimately, to us. As He makes His pledge of commitment to us, the church, His bride, He never once mentions what we must bring to the bargaining table. God makes all the promises and provides the dowry. His love never wanes and His commitment will never end.

God’s qualities are those of a perfect husband: above reproach, fair, loving, kind, gentle, and forgiving. Best of all, I will betroth you to me in faithfulness, and you shall know the Lord. He pledges to love us no matter what and is committed to bring us into relationship with Him.

Lori Hatcher is the wife of a youth minister, homeschooling mother of two lovely young adults, and a part-time dental hygienist. She is a regular contributor to South Carolina’s Reach Out Columbia magazine and author of the blog Be Not Weary, http://lori-benotweary.blogspot.com.
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Bumper Bowling – Susan Dollyhigh
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Show me your ways, LORD, teach me your paths. Psalm 25:4 NIV

Bumper Bowling is like a bumper life. I watched as my granddaughter, Katelyn, rolled the pink bowling ball around in the carousel until her five-year-old fingers found the holes to slide into. She picked up the six-pound ball and in a wobbly run made her way to the foul line where she came to an abrupt stop. Swinging her small upper body around to the right, she brought the ball up with both hands and heaved it down the bowling lane. Thump. Thump. Thump. The ball dribbled out of control before making contact with the lane where it swirled from the right gutter to the left gutter and once more to the right before reaching the pins and slowly knocking over all ten. With a celebratory jump, Katelyn smiled. “Yes, a strike.” Katelyn was Bumper Bowling, a game for children, which meant her ball was protected from falling into the gutters by pads positioned on each side of the bowling lane.

Marital problems, health issues, and financial concerns had left me feeling like a bowling ball dropped and thumped from one crisis to the next before swirling out of control, rolling into the gutter, and landing in a pit. Faced with so many difficult decisions, I didn’t know what to pray for, so I prayed as David did in Psalm 25, “Show me your ways, O Lord, teach me your paths.” If I could get out of the pit and onto the Lord’s path, I would find the hope and peace promised in God’s Word. Remembering Katelyn’s Bumper Bowling, I asked the Lord to place bumpers so I couldn’t veer from His path. “Lord,” I prayed, “I want to go Bumper Bowling.”

Reading God’s Word, talking with Him in prayer, and seeking wise counsel are bumpers that can keep us from veering off His path and landing in the pit.

Father, I pray that you will instruct me in the way of wisdom and lead me along straight paths.

Susan Shelton Dollyhigh is a freelance writer and columnist who recently won the Women of Faith Shine the Light Contest and 3 awards at the Blue Ridge Christian Writers Conference. She resides in Texas. www.inspirationfrommayberry.com

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Seeking Direction From God – Kelli Kossel
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In all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will direct your paths. Proverbs 3:6

If you’ve ever been lost, you know how quickly panic sets in. The more anxious you become, the less clearly you think. Reason and logic fly out the window. When lost, do you stop and ask for directions or try to find your own way?

When I’m depressed, worried, or hurting I sometimes forget to ask for God’s help. This is when the enemy steps in, wanting me to think I’m all alone. Nothing could be further from the truth. God is there. He does care. All I need to do is call on Him.

Once I accepted Jesus as my Lord and Savior, He guided me to the Father. Life isn’t always smoother, but the trail was blazed by Jesus. He’s cleared away my sin so I can walk unencumbered past the roadblocks sin creates.

Life isn’t easy. There’s always twists and turns. But Jesus will walk with us every step of the way. Life is more rewarding and purposeful when we follow Christ. We experience immense joy and freedom once we have Godly direction. He’s guided me to places I would have never found on my own.

When I take a wrong turn, I stare straight ahead and think of Jesus. By turning my thoughts to Him, my sin is left behind. The more I focus on Jesus, the straighter my path becomes. Rather than succumbing to the temptations of the world, I focus on Jesus. Rather than allowing myself to become irritated, argue, or say things I’ll regret, I turn my thoughts to Jesus. Rather than giving in to fear and anxiety, I march boldly ahead to Jesus. Momentary temptations and stress fade away.

By following Jesus, you’ll be on the right path. What direction are you headed?

The Path

Our time in this world is as
Fleeting as a footprint in the sand.
Just how you spend your time,
Is in your hands.
You can choose to live your life in the light,
And brighten others paths in the night.
You can choose to live your life in the dark,
And not care whether you’ve played your part.
But know the path you choose today
Determines what direction
You’ll go on your last day.

Kelli is a licensed acupuncturist and, as part of her practice, counsels people about nutrition, stress management, and other lifestyle behaviors related to health promotion and prevention of disease. She has a passion for writing Christian philosophy, Christian living, devotions, poetry, and health related topics. Kelli is known for taking difficult biblical principles and teaching readers how to apply them to their everyday lives. She shares her heart in both her work and writing.
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Dumb Questions – Tina Givens
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Zacharias said to the angel, “How will I know this for certain? For I am an old man and my wife is advanced in years.Luke 1:18

Sometimes I ask dumb questions. I once asked a friend to help me find my glasses while they sat on my face. Another time I inquired about the half-time show at a baseball game. Who knew that half-time was only in football? Apparently, everyone in the world — except me.

I wish life had a rewind button. But neither exhaled breath nor spoken words can ever be retrieved.

Zacharias learned that lesson the hard way. A priest, he was performing his duties in the temple when the angel Gabriel visited him with a message. His wife Elizabeth, barren and old enough to remember when childlessness used to consume her, would miraculously become pregnant with a son.

“How will I know this for certain?” Zacharias inquired of the angel.

Those words would be his last for a while. His next words would be spoken as a grateful father. The all-seeing God spotted sinful unbelief attempting to hide in Zacharias’ heart and silenced him. God knew his question was not about certainty or confirmation at all. It was a faithless reaction to a clear promise from heaven.

Zacharias asked a dumb question. But not the one he asked out loud. Will God really do as He says? he whispered in his heart.

Haven’t we all secretly asked that question in one form or another? When we worry that our basic needs will go unmet, we ask it. When we doubt God has heard our prayers, we ask it. When we fear evil will triumph over righteousness, we ask it.

So what should we ask the next time we are tempted to doubt the promises of God? Genesis gives us a better question: “Is anything too hard for the LORD?”

You know the answer, so ask your questions. There are no dumb questions with Christ.

Tina Givens has a passion for encouraging people through her writing and singing. In addition to writing devotional pieces, Tina writes articles and advertising copy as marketing manager for NRB Network, a Christian educational and informational television channel seen nationwide on DIRECTV. Tina lives in Jacksonville, Florida, where she sings with the group Deliberate Praise and is a member of First Coast Christian Writers.
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No Hitter – Greg Watson
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Jesus told him, “If you want to be perfect, go and sell all your possessions and give the money to the poor, and you will have treasure in heaven. Then come, follow me.” Matthew 19:21

It was called the saddest sports story of 1964. Not one batter had made a hit off of the Houston Colts (anybody remember them?) pitcher, Ken Johnson. At the top of the ninth inning he had two outs against the Cincinnati Reds. Just a few more pitches and he could claim the coveted pitching prize of a “no-hitter.”

Then the unthinkable happened. An error sent a batter to second base. On the heels of this error another one sent the runner across home plate. This lone run proved to be the game winner for the Reds. Ken Johnson walked off the field after pitching the game of a lifetime, with a seemingly impossible no-hitter in one pocket and a loss in the other. All the hope of training, effort, and flawless execution was brought down by the mockery of error.

As sad as that story is, there is a similar but much sadder one in the Gospels. A certain young man of great wealth and prominence kept the commandments all his life, yet he knew something was lacking. Falling on his knees, he begged Jesus to tell him how he could gain eternal life. Jesus responded by telling him to sell all his possessions and give the money to the poor. But the young man just couldn’t do it.

All his life this young man had flawlessly observed the rules. But in the end he couldn’t follow Christ’s greatest commandment of loving God so much he couldn’t help but love others. He walked away from Jesus having lost his perfect game due to a single error.

As a Christian I often struggle not to live out this same sad story. It’s easy for me to become wrapped up in the rules of playing my best Christian game possible. I make sure I do this Christian thing or not do that worldly thing. Yet even after pitching a flawless game, I often lose my no-hitters because I simply miss following Christ’s example.

By following the rules we can certainly pitch a perfect game, but until we follow Christ’s example of loving God so we can love others, it will be a game we’ll never win.

Greg Watson is an environmental engineer at a chemical plant in far western Kentucky. He likes to view himself in the role of secular minister based in the workplace. Greg enjoys spending time with his wife and three children and enjoys blogging when he gets the chance. His blog of essays and devotions can be found at www.RiverGroups.com and  www.quesoveritas.wordpress.com.

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Retinitis Pigmentosa of the Soul – Lisa Keck
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The commands of the Lord are radiant, giving light to the eyes. Psalm 19:8b (NIV)

They thought the child had Retinitis Pigmentosa (RP). The specialist administered a local anesthetic and placed contact lenses on the young boy’s eyes. Sensors attached to the lenses which would record how each eye reacted to light. The test would confirm what the eye doctor suspected.

Retinitis Pigmentosa (RP). At present this disease has no known cure. Sight is gradually lost as the field of vision progressively narrows. I’ve been watching this little boy and the thing that’s hardest for people, especially  children, to understand is that he can see well outside but not indoors in artificial light.

I’ve found that sometimes my own spiritual field of vision narrows in the light. It’s easier to just obey the commandments that fit my character. Sin gets categorized — big and little. Murder is big. A “little white lie” is small. The reality is when I minimize or justify sin, I am developing Retinitis Pigmentosa of the soul. My vision is narrowing to the spiritual and the realm of God’s work in my life and others. It’s a slow gradual process. There are those who recognize my  condition. They may offer me spiritual help and growth, yet their heart  and advice are bound in darkness. It makes sense to me at the time because my eyes tend to focus easier in the dark. They may even strive to keep me in the dark so my vision doesn’t clear. Focus is hard to maintain when the cloud of sin fogs my view. My spiritual eyes become blurred and they’re no more able to see than those of my little friend with RP.

It is only through the Spirit’s true light my eyes can be opened to my needs. Only then can the condition be reversed. Eyes wide open.

The Great Physician can help rid our lives of the cause and restore our spiritual vision. He can even widen our vision to better than it ever was. He’s an old fashioned physician, still making house calls…but only if I call. When we let Him work in us we are able to respond accordingly to His commands.

Have you called on the Great Physician today? Let Him clear your vision from the lies of sin and show you new truth.

Lisa Keck is a wife and mother of 2 who lives in Orange, CA. She volunteers as a Braille proofreader and recently joined the wonderful world of blogging. Her blog, Ears In The Cornfield, can be found at brailleblazer.blogspot.com. There she shares insights of growing up with a blind mother, including random thoughts about braille. Read Lisa’s devotions

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