I once attended a women’s retreat where a Jewish wedding canopy (chuppah) was set up in one area. A bridal veil was provided for those who wished to wear it, and the guests were invited to take communion individually. This was a profound encounter with Jesus as I wept and worshiped Him as my bridegroom.
One reason Jesus described Himself as a bridegroom was to offer hope to women. Girlhood dreams of being loved and treasured often end like crushed roses trampled underfoot.
In contrast, our heavenly suitor offers a noble love where He gives up everything, even his life. He provides perfect fidelity, attuned support, and passionate devotion. How can we resist being loved and cherished like that forever?
Although I liked the bridegroom metaphor, 1 John 4:18 distressed me for years: “The one who fears is not made perfect in love.” I was ashamed of my imperfect love for the Lord because I worried about being unable to please Him.
My fear, though, showed how little I knew about the Lord’s heart and intentions toward me, His warm and tender thoughts about me, and His eagerness to help me in all my weaknesses. It’s all about His perfect love, not mine. Because He loved me first, I can rest and trust His character.
Not surprisingly, the more secure I feel as His beloved, the safer I feel to love others deeply from the heart.
Don’t struggle. Learn to truly rest in God’s love for you.
Ruth Wood is a licensed professional counselor who lives with her husband in Oregon. They have two grown sons, two lovely daughters-in-law, and one very spoiled grandcat. Ruth has been published in Eternal Perspectives magazine and regularly contributes devotionals at Lifesprings International Ministry. You will find devotionals, articles, and the occasional attempt to tickle her readers' funny bones at EspressoForTheHeart.org.